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If your subordinates don't think you're an asshole then you may be a good person but likely not a very effective manager. #OfficeSmart

Try this: When your gf asks you to help her with something, tell her half jokingly to touch her forehead to your feet and request saying 'please'. Tell her you'll only help if she did this, and actually make her do it. Dominance training.

Attitude influences perception and perception determines action. Actions determine outcomes and outcomes influence the quality of life. In short, as many have said, attitude is everything.